To all my beautiful readers,
It has been almost two years since writing in my blog. The story I have told got to a point for me that I was not able to continue writing because we got to things I was still emotionally processing. BUT we are ready to continue sharing our beautiful story that leads us to the best days of our lives.
We left off at AJ's birth mother "Betty" physically assaulting her mother, and stating that she had moved in with AJ's birth father...who wanted custody. We will call him Anthony. We took AJ to get a DNA test done to determine the future of our current situation. The way they do DNA testing is by taking the mothers DNA and the "supposed" fathers DNA and test it together against the child's DNA. Betty refused to give her sample knowing this would prolong the testing we were all a little frustrated including Anthony. Anthony showed up to court multiple times in a row, showed a sincere interest in AJ, and had the same face shape. Our hearts were immediately shattered thinking this is it..this is what we knew might happen and did our best to prepare for but tremendously failed at preparing our hearts to give up this now 7 month old baby we had worked tirelessly with. Anthony seemed like a good guy with his head on his shoulders, but in reality would anybody be good enough to raise this incredible child? I went over every situation good and bad that my brain could think of. (Anyone else an over thinker here?). I couldn't shake this feeling that something was off. Soooo like any other over thinker I went full FBI mode on my friend the internet. Everything I could find I sent to our case worker, along with AJ's guardian ad litem. For those of you that don't know what a Guardian Ad Litem is don't feel stupid I didn't know either! A guardian Ad Litem is a person who has the legal authority to care for the personal and property interests of another person, they are typically used in four situations: incapacitated senior, for a minor, and for developmentally disabled adults, or adults found to be incompetent. Shortly after finding nothing but dead ends, Anthony had gotten my phone number from Betty and called me. The conversation went something like this:
Me: Hello?
Anthony: This is Anthony and you are taking care of my son. You and the state are playing so many games and it is time I take this into my own hands.
Me: I understand this can be frustrating for you, but I am doing everything the state has requested. The DNA test is done on our end, Betty has refused to offer her sample so we have to wait for the judge to push the test through for the two samples to be ran.
Anthony: I have my own test, i'm not waiting longer. You need to let me come into your home and preform my test. All I need is to swab the kids mouth, and take what is mine.
Me: Like I said, I have done my part in following the states request, I suggest you do the same. You can not come into my home. Have a good day.
*Click*
My heart immediately started racing as if we were in danger. I called the Case Worker and he advised me to stay home and call the cops if anything were to seem suspicious. My FBI mode went even harder. This time I found more than dead ends. The name we all knew him by was not his legal name, he had a long record. He was wanted in multiple states had multiple warrants out for his arrest for more than I could have imagined. This man was a big drug lord, and had a violent record. I stayed home for 3 days blinds closed, scared to sleep.
Our most recent court date the judge had decided to relinquish (take away parental rights) Betty's rights to AJ. This dangerous man was now the only thing standing in our way of adoption. We had waited months for the judge to sign off on the DNA test to be ran with Anthony and AJ's samples. Finally the samples were ran. Were we going to lose him? Was he going to be safe? I treated every moment as if it was my last with AJ, the little love of my life. This could be the greatest heart break I would ever experience. I prepared myself.
The weeks passed slowly, we had a plan with the Guardian Ad Litem to go to our next court date and attempt to prove Anthony as an unfit parent. Two days was all we had left before court. Would the judge send AJ away with this stranger, or would they agree he was an unfit parent? Would he show up knowing we found all this information on him and risk getting arrested? There was so many directions this could go. We continued with our every day routines until I got a call. It was the Guardian Ad Litem, she informed me the test had been completed... what she told me next changed everything.
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